/bridges of madison county

clint eastwood- robert kincaide. photographer for national geographic
meryl streep- francesca. fr italy (i still see her in sophie's choice, doing more eastern european), married to an Army guy who came home to the family Iowa farm, two children.

plot. he shows up, lost, looking to photograph the covered bridges (! got to love em). 4 days spent together, eventually consumating their relationship. after it's realized that he's serious about her, she doesn't leave with him as she can't leave her family.

quotes.
certainty like this comes but once in a lifetime. (as he leaves out the door)
they were two lives bound together as closely as two lives can be. (francesca remembering)
the love i have with robert can live while we're apart, while the life that i have with richard (husband) could not.
i gave my life to you children, and i just ask that you give the rest of what's left of me to him. (cremated, scatter ashes over bridge. as robert's remains were)

physical older adult love story. francesca isn't rail thin, doesn't look ravishing in all shots. robert is attractive though (blast it how some men can age better than women).

not is it an oldie. but i've watched it before. in its entirety, not broken up by tappings on the computer or taking LG out. been watching entire movies that i've seen entirely, but don't remember until the end ("pretty woman").

do people love like that ever? i suppose for people to write about it, and for it to resonate with people like me who believe it or would like to.
it's not the love that i have now. and not what i strive for.
perhaps i'm not strong enough. i feel enough grief and pain over such small things. being able to feel so deeply in love, and in grief. i just dissociate or avoid usually.
would i do the same? being unfaithful, keeping two lives running parallel. if the past is the best predictor of future action...

watched at home, on TV. while @'s away in Fort Dix doing Army Reserve stuff.
- posted by B @ 9:01 PM